ADHD: Using a Day Planner as a Life Planner

Been there? Done that? Lost a dozen? Using a day planner one of the most essential coping skills that a woman with ADD can develop, but it’s one that you need to practice and develop. Actually, using a dayplanner is not a single skill, but involves a set of skills that can be worked on, one-by-one.

1. Learn to have it with you at ALL times.
When I am helping someone develop the habit of using a daytimer, so often, in the beginning, I hear, “I’m using it, but I just didn’t bring it to the session.” Or, “It’s in the car.” The only way for your day planner to become your “exterior frontal lobes” – your life planner and manager – is if you have your exterior frontal lobes with you at all times! You wouldn’t intentionally leave your brain in the car, or at home, would you?


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Vignette From a Mentoring Relationship

By Mary Beth Burns, Ed.D. – In the last edition, we read an informal letter of introduction Emily had received from her new mentor, Sara. What we didn’t know was that before Sara wrote that E-mail, she had cautiously weighed her options concerning how and when she would begin her relationship with Emily. After all, when she told Dr. Burns in late November that she would be was interested in working with Emily she hadn’t given careful consideration to the number of obligations and responsibilities that the holiday time can bring.

At first, Sara considered asking Emily if she wouldn’t mind waiting until after the holidays to start their work together, but then she remembered how thirsty she had been for knowledge and support when she first was diagnosed, so she decided to make the time to contact Emily. Yet in retrospect, Sara realized that if she wanted to fully

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Controlling Screen Addiction

Do you often miss important appointments, punch in late to work, fix cereal again for your family’s “dinner”, stay up until 3 a.m., not even go to the bathroom when you need to and want to? Have you been mesmerized by the computer screen, feel compelled to keep on working, play solitaire or “Mienstein” repeatedly, surf the shopping channels like your fingers and the mouse are super-glued together? You wanted to stop a half hour or two hours ago, but “just once more” zips through your brain, again and again. You wish you had a wireless laptop so you could take it to bed and fall asleep playing one last game of FreeCell. Does someone shouting: “All you ever do is sit at that d—– computer!” have a familiar ring to it?

A patient I will call Dorothy phoned our office yesterday. She said the medicine the doctor had prescribed …

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Smell the Air, See the Light

Smell the air, see the light coming through branches perceptibly dulled, though yet green; step outside and smell the light night air, with just the beginnings of fall-feel to its breezes. Early in the morning when you’re out for your daily constitutional (you have begun your walking routine, yes?), listen, and you’ll hear fewer bees and the robins, if chirping at all, sound less cheery.

They may not lack for good cheer so much as for a certain expectation — that tone particular to spring, which recalls, each year, the approach of another season of warmth and no jackets; of lengthening days, stretching ahead into the vague distance of time. Robins tell us we need not, briefly, try to remember, to keep in mind, Time as a Commodity to be saved, or spent, wasted, made up, lost or — wonder of wonders – found.

Stores are selling school supplies …

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